I don't think it is seriously whittling away. He may have played a bit, but he was not like your H, V, who would ask you for resources. He never did. He just didn't step up so I had to.
Some legal counsel, yes. Advice is uniform. There is nothing here to fight for, go the way of peace if possible.
I think he is only holding out bc of the great indecision and distraction fog that has plagued most of his life. He knows it is unpleasant to think about and something has changed and I am pushing and so he has become an immovable object. What I read from him directly is that he could care less about me and wants to walk away. This was not put on for an audience. The little head may know that but for whatever reasons - control, plaything, conflict enjoyment, he's not willing to make it final.
So be it. I am NC and I assume one day he will get bored.
Mid 30's Psych-abusive M with violent tantrums from XH D 9/15; NC forever on
