5. Become bad-a$$. Dig deep and find your inner manhood again. What you are going through is a huge blow to the male psyche. Become the samurai, the road-warrior, the Crusader, etc. you've always dreamed of being. It's a lot more fun than being a cuckold.
Pay close attention to Theoden.
He has been at this a long time (as have I - don't ask how long) and knows what he is talking about.
Manning up or becoming a bad a€€ is of extreme importance when you're dealing with a cheating wife and OM. I cannot emphasise this enough. You will need all the strength, mojo, swagger, character you have and then some.
Be loving, never let there be a hard word but don't, for a minute, let your boundaries be violated. Now is the time to be unflappable, calm but also a "let justice prevail" mindset. You must also be merciless when you have to be, especially with a divorce settlement, custody, kids etc.
GH31
Me: 46 W: 46 T: 23 M: 20 DS12 DD11 DS5
W left: 01/28/08 Discovered OM: 02/26/08 W back for 9 days: 04/08 W returned 05/21/08 EA/PA - 01/08-07/09 W's MLC 2008-2014 (realised this much later)
