While I was writing my Epic Tome to Caliguy, I did not see that you posted.
Thanks for the reminder to take care of myself. I need it from time to time.
I just re-read parts of my previous thread. Sometimes I think I am crazy because I feel like I keep getting stuck on the same things over and over. It seems like I had the same gripes a month ago. Will I never learn???
As Cali pointed out, there is a ton of cake eating happening. I don't want to move out right now. All the sources I checked, including many on this site, say that it can affect custody decisions. Also, the prevailing sentiment is that WW should move out if she is having the A. Unfortunately, I cannot legally ask her to move out. I am ok staying in the house right now. I think I just have to make a better effort and GAL, PMA. Your point about treating W like a neighbor is well-taken. P.S. I know Sandi says no flowers, but it is not my style to be an ungrateful pr--k. So I bought her some flowers in a vase and presented them to her in front of the kids so they could see a good example of gratitude. If she asks (but she won't), I will tell her that I just wanted to thank her for the cooking and I wanted to set an example for the kids about being grateful. I really would love to ask her when was the last time she thanked me. But to steal a line from Caliguy, I am going to drink that STFU smoothie.
I know your sitch was different because you had the living co-parenting arrangements in place beforehand. I kind of envy you that you are not under the same roof (you need to update your profile). But I think I can do this for a bit longer.
One of the things I learned in re-reading my thread is that the outcome should not affect my actions. It should not matter whether I want to save the M or not. I should DB because I should DB. It is good for me regardless of the outcome. Why can't I get that into my thick skull?
