Hello Pink - well, wow! I had always presumed all three boys were yours and H's. I agree with RD in a way - are you adding another complication to an already stressful situation. But I can also see that, like many of us, your life has been shattered - let's have a look at the wreckage and see what we can sort out here.

I think that leads us to look at things that are unresolved within ourselves and in our lives. And please don't feel in any way judged. We are so fond of you and only want the best for you. So, may I ask? Has your eldest ever met his Dad? Did his dad keep in touch over the years at all? I'd love to hear more about what happened if you want to post, but please don't feel in any way obliged.

I hope you had a nice lunch, and that your afternoon goes well lovely Pink. Take care (((((pink)))))

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus