Seems like Caliguy and I are of the same mind. It is about control. Nothing else.
RAI
P.S. Caliguy, our sitches are very similar. Right down to the BD timing. I have been meaning to check out your thread in more detail. Just haven't had time.
My thread is a very long one ... longer than I ever cared it to be.
Reading yours I came away with a few things, sometimes different eyes will expose things in a light that may be of use to you.
Appears to me your W definitely 'affair-ed down' and from what I gathered in your posts you somewhat have been a doormat this whole time, not to sound mean or insensitive but its just the vibe I got, took you a bit to boot her from the BR, yet she still continues to enjoy the house, the phone and most of all the A .... Total cake eater and she is getting fat n happy at your expense.
Your GAL's up to this point to me make no effort to even hint at mystery, you are a good dude, work, come home, maybe run ... but you really need to get out of your comfort zone and do something for YOU ... I get the kids/work/house/family ... all that ... but truth is its predictable and more of the same is it not? I have not seen any mention of true GAL's 180's even your PMA seems to be ice cold bitterness towards your WW .... do you want to save the M, or are you just going through the motions till the D goes through?
I think its time to stand up for yourself, you seriously need some boundaries here, cut off the funds, stop financing your W's A, cut the phone .. you have the records already .. all the proof you need ... time to make her realize there are consequences for her actions because from what I read over the past couple months the only thing she has had to change is sleeping in a bed away from you where she can TM OM even more.
