Btw, I could really use a tip or two for dealing with disrespectful tween girl who doesn't take me seriously when I ban potty humor from the dinner table.
Maybell I have no doubt that you are handling this correctly for your family. Your D is a unique snowflake and you understand her best. One route is to realize this is a phase and ignore her, but I suspect the two little brothers get stirred up into it also once it's started. If she's the type, you could take her aside and make her feel grown-up and say you are trying to get the dinner table conversation to be more polite and could she help you out as an example to the rowdy brothers. But that's a fine line, you don't want to put them at odds. You could reward her with a favorite after-dinner activity if she makes it all the way through dinner without a potty mouth. Or you could simply banish her from the table with the second potty word that comes out (first is a warning) with the understanding that the kitchen is closed after dinner. I've taken this route for various things, and it works, but your D is stong willed and it would likely be a lengthy battle and I"m not sure you need that right now. As I said, I'm sure you are doing just fine, just step back and realize potty humor is generally a phase and she won't think it's so interesting down the road. Hang in there, darlin', you are doing great.
