I'd say you have accomplished quite a bit. When you have those moments of feeling like a failure, look at where you were... and what you have been able to do. Even with guidance from professionals and group support, it takes self control. So, you do have it, and you are working hard to fix these areas in your life. I admire men who can admit what they need to do, and then actually go about doing it.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
