Peekablue, I just wanted to say "Welcome", and "Way to GO!", and perhaps offer a word or to from the H perspective. Do NOT hesitate to seek therapy for yourself! Even though your H seems back-offish about it, he's really thrilled you're heading in that direction. It's just that he doesn't want to "jinx" things by seeming too eager. Been there, done that... got the scars to prove it. So does he (and so do you!) from the sound of it. BRAVO on having the courage to take action! Sounds like you've both been working on this for a while - you can pat yourself on the back there, also. I started really raising the alarm with W only about 5 years ago, although I had been trying for a while to raise her consciousness, but since she wasn't buying anything subtle, I finally had to just about threaten to leave her. Just the fact that you are willing to work things through means a LOT to him. Do NOT take him at his word as to his insistence that "he'd rather live in peace" than continue working on it - them's giving-up words, and you're right... NOT a long-term strategy.
Keep on keepin' on... we'll be rooting for you (apologies to anyone from OZ in here... )
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