This is to place to whine, vent and wallow. Afterwards once you have let it out, you need to pay super attention with your interactions with your wife. You can't be cold or grumpy. Easier said than done, but that is what we need to try to achieve.

I'll leave the vets advise you on specific actions.

Also the urge to drive away is also natural. I used to often feel the same, but now I know what I want and I need to be home to achieve that. Like you there have been days when I have had to recenter myself and take time to decide how to proceed. That I have found to be important for me.

What specific WW actions were you thinking about implementing?


R 25 years
M 14 years
S11 & S13
Working on it alone since Oct 2014
M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years)
Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr.
Next R chat Aug'17
Still together