Personally, I would just head into therapy yourself and leave your H out of it for awhile. I think you have some personal issues you need to examine first before you can even begin to bring him into it. Personal therapy can help you understand yourself, assist you in discovering what it is YOU want and need, without confusing it with the wants and needs of a relationship, and it can help you get a firm hold on your issues so you can discuss them with your H.
You can do phone consultations through this site (see links at the top), or you can find a local therapist that you can talk with face to face. When looking for one, though, be sure that the therapist is a 'solutuions-oriented' one. If you call the number above, these people can help you with a list of questions to ask to make sure you are comfortable with your counselor's philosophies.
