Hi NLW and Peace, it is strange, but I haven't thought that much about the phone call. I noticed when I woke up this morning that I was thinking about all sorts of other stuff, and not very much about xh even though we had a long telephone conversation
You do not forget a long (30year plus) and very close relationship, but the hurt and pain have gone, for the most part, and over the past few years I have built a life that suits me. It would probably drive many people crazy, but I am not living anyone else's life!
The thing is I am comfortable in my own skin and I don't feel the failure that I did for so long after my xh left.
But I don't resent him any more.
I think they do slip in and out of denial, but I am not sure that this is what the reent contact is about. My xh truly misses his children (and me I suspect) and believes he can have a relationship on his terms with us without disturbing the equilibrium of his life. Wel, we will see where that goes.
