We both did a lot wrong in the marriage but he's only seeing what I did wrong and exaggerating and lieing on some of it and not admitting he has ever said or done anything wrong and what he does admit to him doing wrong he blames it on me somehow.
Between that and everything he has said and done just this last year much less since he has left I think it's best I just let him go and let God handle everything. My parents had to pay for my lawyer also and my mom paid for the private investigator so at this point I pretty much have to follow through with the divorce anyway and nobody wants us to get back together at this point even the kids so I'm pretty much in a hopeless situation.
Any idea what could show him how stupid he is to give up me and having his family together? At least I could do that..i am an attractive woman but need to lose weight. Other than that and cleaning and being happy idk what I could do. He tells me I will never change then says even if I do it's too late. He made a list of 5 things he wanted me to change but then said I needed to change those things for myself and to find another man. That was before his affair began.
The list was 1-quit being lazy 2-keep house clean 3-lose weight 4-dress sexier 5-have supper ready when he got home..i tried having supper ready when he got home and he would say he's trying to lose weight and isn't hungry and would drink beer or complain about what I cooked but now he's living off fast food and restaurants..he insulted everything I said and did anyway and now he's saying none of those things matter and he doesn't love or want me anymore
Me-30 H/STBX-32 Daughters-10,7,18 months M-9 years T-11 years A few BD's since 2011 H left-March 16,2015 H came back-June 6,2015 Kicked husband out BC he was still seeing OW-June 26,2015
and now he's saying none of those things matter and he doesn't love or want me anymore
