If you haven't already read this, I think it may benefit you before you rush off to find a therapist. Not to take any credit away from therapists, but personally, going through the many sessions I have at this point just to get to where I am now... this board has been absolutely free, but worth far more than the $$$$ that I've shelled out... to discuss my childhood, etc.
Quote: The criteria for success is no longer whether he feels loved, but whether you feel your sexual self growing and developing. If it's not, then use him some more. But you're the one who hired him as your personal trainer and you have some expectations of him. The big question is do YOU want to develop your sexual side more fully and completely for your own sake? You're going to have to teach him how to do what you need him to do since it doesn't come naturally to him.
MPT, you are a genius! Thank you for that post! I believe that is what I'm reaching for in my therapy sessions and the way you put it, it seems silly that H and I should be shelling out $$$ to get there (as slowly as we are). Why did it take your post for me to *see* this?
You can find the full post, in all it's glory, HERE. Just look for #671281 on the 4th page, from MPT.
