This is my first post. I really hope some of you could share your experiences to help me with this...
My husband is a HD and I am a LD. There are all kinds of reasons for this, we have gone through all kinds of different stages with it, and we have arrived at a point of at least mutual understanding. It seems unusual, but I, as the LD, have tried everything I could find, in books, on the net, everything to make our sex life better. But nothing works for me. Nothing will give me back the emotions that used to be connected with sex. Everything else in our life is so great, but we have lost our sexual connection, and I am not willing to accept that.
My husband has reached a state of acceptance, which I highly appreciate, but it breaks my heart. I want things to be better, but neither of us has any more ideas, and energy is running low. The last resort for me is to talk to a professional therapist, who might be able to help us through this. But my husband does not want to talk about it anymore, because the ups and downs are painful for him, and he thinks that every time we try to make it better we end up making it worse - which is half true, because when we try something that doesn't work, we get more frustrated.
He would rather take what he can get and live in peace, but I don't think that will work in the long term. How do I bring up that I want us to go to therapy, without immediately making him feel pain and frustration again?
If you have any idea what I'm talking about, I would be so grateful if you would share your experiences and thoughts.
