Now, what I think everyone really means by GAL is to go out and find something I truly enjoy, something where I'm so into it that thoughts of W or the situation naturally don't even occur.
All that said, it's of course still hard. The first person I want to share with when I have revelations like this is my W. But I keep on keeping on, and perhaps someday I will get to share all of these things with her under different circumstances.
Yes, we cant remove the thinking about our sitch, its too personal to us. GAL lets us fill our mind with something we enjoy so that the thoughts don't come up as much, giving us a mental break.
I think we all have that sadness, and it wont go away anytime soon. Even if you detach the pain of what you lost will remain for a very long time. We just manage it better as time passes. Maybe one day we do get a chance to share our thoughts with them again, or someone else. Either way the process lets us get past this crippling part of our lives to a better place waiting for us somewhere in the future.
Accept what is, let go of what was, and have faith in what will be
