I had a great weekend and hardly even thought about H. Headed back to town and got text from H saying he was going to stop by around 6 after we got back. He did and we played the game Life with my S. I notice he wasn't wearing his wedding ring and I said nothing again it just doesn't matter. I went out to garage came back and he had it on. So is he just wearing it around me? Oh wait this is something I shouldn't be thinking about it is his own weird thing to figure out.
We had a great weekend. When we got home my S told H all about it and S was so excited. H said he didn't like the cabin anymore because all he did was work on it. Whatever not our problem my S said its dad's loss.
I found that we were fine with getting everything opened up. My sister and her boys and boyfriend were there and they took my S under their wing and took him fishing etc and he had so much fun. I actually found that things went smoother, no inner family fights because H always thought he had to do all the work and others were "lazy" which is not true, much more calm time and I could do things at my leisure and no one yelled at my S.
Detaching is hard and I am working at it every day 25years. I am GAL, not quite there yet but after this weekend I am doing better. When my H comes around I have to apply the STOP method still but I have not asked about R for the last 2 1/2 weeks which is a record for me and I plan to keep on not asking!!!
