I think if you do go to see him, you'll need a plan. I'm confused as to what exactly you would say to this person. Remember, your W is surely going to hear second hand anything you say (and through the eyes of someone that will exaggerate for the worse). I understand the desire to do this for you. But it feels like you're doing it to try to exert control over this situation. I fear that it won't do anything to bring you closer to keeping your M.
