I am still working. Trying to prepare payrolls, clients need to pay their staff. H deleted many records on his way out the door which has required quite a lot of work to restore and put right.
At the moment working many hours and through the night, trying to save my fins and my business.
H has done a great deal of financial damage.
V
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
V, hope you can take care of your business, but make sure you take care of yourself also. I cant imagine having to deal with the damage hes caused in your M along with the intentional damage to the business also. Take care.
Accept what is, let go of what was, and have faith in what will be
I don't have much to add for your sitch right now bar sending continued positive thoughts and wishes and I hope they keep you topped up in this difficult time as you have so many things to tackle.
As to H you should do what you've so elegantly put before, stand for V, when you've faced and beaten (and you will) the current issues assemble the life you want and are happy with, BFT/WFT/Woof included and go from there, go dancing, go skydiving, go .... be V.
If you stand for H and M then do it because V wants to and if not then be the V you want to be and seek out a special someone if you want to be in a relationship, they will be lucky to find you.
Take it as easy as you can V, be kind to yourself and take care.
(((((Vanilla)))))
Edz and BFT
M:44, W:46, S:10 M 13 years, T 15 BD:23/7/2014 W/S Moved to MIL: 23/7/2014 My new place: 21/11/2014 W/S back to flat 22/11/2014 W coming closer, talking 4/2015 Piecing 5/2015 Moving in again 6/2015
Hope you are getting some sleep too. I like working late at night, but found out that sometimes its better to sleep well and have a clear mind in the early hours.
V, the way I see it is that if you want to stand for your M then it's a road called patience. Your H should be very lost right now. That's what happen to abusive people. They are strong in their twisted mind because they have someone that will allow them to continue the abusive way.
But V said enough to him, moved away from him and this is probably driving him crazy.
First reaction is to attack, but soon enough you will see a H that is all regretful and with lots of self pity.
Hope the business side gets in some shape that V will be able to breath again and have the free time to enjoy life. V needs some rest soon. You have a long journey ahead of you V.
You are an amazing person for all you have been doing for yourself, you should always be very proud that even with lots of fear, you could stand for yourself and your whole life.
Don't really know what to say so I'll just send you a hug and sloppy kisses and tail wags from Molly.
Me 52, H53 Bomb drop 9/29/2014 Divorce from XH final 12/17/2014 Marriage #2 12/31/2019 5 adult (step)daughters (3 from XH's first marriage, 2 from current H's previous relationships) 6 grandkids
I hope you didn't fall asleep at your desk V. Lack of sleep is bad news :-(
Hugs to you V. And sleep.
Wonka, if you have a few mins to spare, would you be a dear and cast an eye over my latest draft email to WW. I feel as though I can finally get back on the DB program after a few months of 'anger therapy' (it didn't work) but I still have resentment fight on. Toots and gan are also pitching in for which I am truly grateful.
M: 57 / EW: 52 T: 21, M: 8 S: 18, S: 15 Bomb: 1 Jun 14 EA Aug 2014 I think PA Feb 2015 possibly sooner