first post; my story

[Kembo05]

I get your drift. I know he isn't going to have integrity and he won't be remorseful. But you can only hide from your actions for so long. I don't think meeting him changes anything but I know he's terrified of me and I know he is hiding behind his dad. I think meeting him is more for me. I'm embarrassed I enabled my wife's decisions when I found out about affair. I did the stereotypical thing and apologized and told her I know I was a part of this and I HATE that I said those things. I think me meeting him shows I'm not putting up with this anymore; to him and my W. Does that change anything? Probably not. But at least I will get some of my self dignity back.

I still haven't completely decided what to do. I know I won't turn aggressive because that's not who I am. It may sound ridiculous but I know how terrified the OM is about meeting me and I'm glad that's the case. Part of me thinks he kept pursuing my W after I found out because he assumed I was just going to sit back and watch, I hope him meeting me will prove otherwise