Thanks Sandi and Matt, I agree with you both. Matt, I definitely know the OM isn't THE problem. I just saw what I thought was him and I acted on it. I knew I was never just going to go to this house and confront him, but I just got overwhelmed with a ton of emotion when I thought it was him.

His dad agreed that he needed to see me face to face. I kind of want to do this. Anyone have thoughts on this? I know it doesn't change anything but for some reason I want to look him in the eye and make him look me in mine. I don't have specific intentions, but I just want to tell him he needs to move on and tell him his actions are going to be part of a destruction of a family. He is only 21 so I know he is young and immature. Just curious to what you all think about this. His dad said he would take him somewhere public where the 2 of us can talk face to face.

Me: 32 Her: 29
M: 5 T: 11
D2
ILYBINILWY: Jan 15
BD: 2/13/15 (I found out, she didn't tell me)
W filed for D after I confronted OM 5-27-15
Papers served 6-3-15
Temporary Order 7-15-15
W Moved out 7-17-15