He's being very thoughtful. It's any wonder his "lady" is concerned about what he's doing. Bea, in his mind, you are becoming his ow!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
I can imagine thinking that it's better, after having developed a new life (and re-established your equilibrium), not to want to have him re-insert himself...
But the curiosity to understand what on earth these people are going through is so strong (at least for me).
And of course, there will always be a connection.
Just wondering how you are handling this, feeling-wise.