The boys will have a key if I really needed something. While this could be a control thing for her, that's been one of the things that's come up for us in the past - that I've been too controlling. I could see me holding on to the key being more of the same.
I also could see me giving the key back a sign of dropping the rope and moving on.
Yep.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!