I'm so sorry to hear your story. I don't have much to advise yet, but you have come to the right place. You won't find anywhere more supportive.
One thing j will ask is whether you've seen a lawyer. As far as I understand, he doesn't get to decide how much money to "leave you with." The courts can decide how much you get....initially and every month. Make sure you are doing what you can to protect yourself and your family.
