As I mentioned earlier, he said that he doesn't love me anymore the nth time. I used to beg for another chance but now I would like to move on with or without him. He's under my medical insurance at work because the benefits are better and less employee contribution and co pay. Would removing him and of course letting him know beforehand signal this or is this a bad idea? Thanks in advance to all!
Hello kippz, I'm so sorry you're here, but you couldn't have found a better place.
A couple observations - 1) remember not to believe anything he says and only 50% of his actions. Also, just because he says he's not in love with you today doesn't mean he won't always not be in love with you. He's veryvemotional right now and will say all sorts of things. You're doing good to let them roll off.
2) I'm a little unclear what you want to gain from taking him off of your insurance. How does this bring you closer to your goal? (Which I assume is related to revitalizing your marriage). Instead of taking punitive actions on him, show him you're moving on by getting your own life. Find ways to make yourself happy without him. Then you will actually be able to move on! Punishing him doesn't really do anything for you outside of the temporary high of revenge.
