I just wanted to start NC today, I can't fall into traps. He needs a good 30 days not talking to me.
Just remember, this process is about YOU. it's not about tricking or punishing your H. It's about protecting and then evolving yourself so that you can become the person you want to be. The NC isn't about disciplining your H, it's about giving you the space you need to detach and disentangle yourself to become your own person. Stop pursuing him and wait for him to come to you.
Also, I wouldn't put a timeline on this yet. I'm over a month separated now, and I don't see my W even looking around yet - full on headed toward D still. And that's ok. I'm prepared to continue fighting for our M until I decide that I'm done.
