Yes! Day two and very little thought of H and NC from my end. Not a peep from H either, but that was expected.
Being away this week for work, I have come to the realization that my H and I have not spent enough time apart through this whole thing. How the heck is he going to miss me when we are hanging out so much?! I will say this has been mutually decided and not just happening because of me. I think there is a bit of codependency on both sides.
While I have pretty much stuck to the LRT and GAL, I have too easily been drawn back in by H, but only of course on his terms. He is controlling the entire flow of everything right now and I need to cut him off and take back that power from him. I think the part I was having an issue with was when I pulled back it agitated H. The rational response or reaction on my part was that this was bad and that I should avoid upsetting H. But it is his own doing if he is agitated and is not my issue.i am jumping too much at the privilege of being given opportunity to hang out with H. Also, have no desire to be out late multiple times a week, so more often I am home before H. So he does not get to see GAL
Because the response feels unnatural, it is easy to think I am doing something bad. I think I need to decline some of his requests.
Is this accurate vets? Is it a typically ok if H is upset/angry in this Situation? Any tips for creating more mystery when you are not into being out late and home before H?
Me: 42 H: 40 M: 12 H moved out - 8/2015 I filed - 8/2015