I am going to go a bit further and ask some difficult questions here.
-Do you want to remain/be married to H? -Do you want to expend the energy in DBing H? -With 20/20 hindsight now, has some of the character flaws remained unchanged in all of the years you've been married to H?
-What are your core values as Vanilla, not as the wife of HName?
-What do you truly want in the second act of your life?
