MLC or not, Wayward or not. You have to practice detachment and get those boundaries in place.
Practice, practice, backslide, practice...
Keep those text messages about the kids. Do not respond with defending or trying to correct her unless she is crossing a boundary.
I know the urge to respond and "let her know how it is" is almost impossible resist. Sometimes you can do it for a month and it all comes crashing down.
Time Max. Time and practice. Keep going and keep posting.
