It is hard, and when you go through problems in your marriage- that too makes you want to hold them tighter and protect them. You might find it helps you both. In a way I'm enjoying my time at work (I actually get a break where I can sit with a coffee and read a magazine!) or I can talk with other moms and they understand what I'm going through. And I enjoy the dressing up and looking good aspect. And then I think with the extra money I bring in- what fun things can I do with my child now. And plan fun things like zoo trips without thinking about the money.
Me 26 H 25 M 4 T 5 Baby born 4/14 BD: 1/15 EA: 2/15 PA: 4/15 reconciling: 4/15 ILYBINILWY- 11/15 ILY-1/16 ILYBNILWY 4/16 ILY 6/16 ILYBINILWY 6/16 Baby due 3/17 BD 8/16
Cherry, I would like to have some time in teaching again and my S would most likely benefit as well. I also need to remember to just go day by day and not start thinking so far ahead. It gets me into trouble every time!
Did you have a good weekend?
M 46 / H 43 T 24/M 18 S 4 11/6/2014 ILYBNILWY 1/16/2015 Living in separate bedroom 1/8/2016 H moved out
Journaling - So my H started being moody back on the 18th and has continued to be so. I'm keeping my PMA but my anxiety is increasing as I have that waiting for the other shoe to drop feeling. I know from our years together that he's thinking about something, but won't share it with me.
In the past I would have ignored it and just filled the house with senseless chatter and hoped he would get better. Now, I have asked him every night how he's doing. He hasn't told me anything, but at least I'm making the effort.
M 46 / H 43 T 24/M 18 S 4 11/6/2014 ILYBNILWY 1/16/2015 Living in separate bedroom 1/8/2016 H moved out
Maybe you could hold off on the 'how are ya doin' until he is more willing to tell you...i know you are giving him space, but might wanna give him more space. not easy to keep up the energy.
I sometimes wonder if it is easier or harder to detach ourselves from them if we were in another house? It may come to that still. Another day...today I am focusing on today...not as easy as it sounds.
Hi Zephyr! Thanks for stopping by to check on me. I have often wondered about the detachment issue too, but then while he's here I think I have more time. And you're right, I should give him even more space. I just don't want him to think I'm not noticing him.
M 46 / H 43 T 24/M 18 S 4 11/6/2014 ILYBNILWY 1/16/2015 Living in separate bedroom 1/8/2016 H moved out
I am fighting that too, but I know that with her mood tonight and last that the more I try it will only give her more fuel to be sour...no matter what my reason for talking to her is. Don't know what turned her upset...no bother in figuring it out
So I've stayed home for maybe an hour tonight....went out for a library visit
Detaching is the hardest part. My husband is gone and plans to stay gone. I so afraid it will make it easier for him to forget about me.
I can understand you not wanting your husband to think you don't notice him. It's a hard stich, but in my opinion, being under the same roof gives your family a better chance of healing.
not easy to keep up the energy.