I was in a dark place and I went and asked a mentor for some advice. I apprised him of the situation and he said that he was sorry.
I told him how much I resented that someone could get away from all this, that she will benefit financially, and that maybe I should start to play hardball legally.
He then said to me,
TB, you've already won the high road. Sure, she can take away some assets, but the law is straightforward already. She can't take away your earning potential. In the end, look back in a years time and ask yourself if you are proud how you behaved. Or are you going to look back at all the mud you slung and the damage to the kids and the mother of your children.
You've already won.
His talk lifted me out of my hole as everything he said was true. I have won. At the end of the day, morally, she is the one who bears that burden and I can pride myself that I did the right thing.
