Kramer - thanks for the inspiration! My wife filed and I moved out. She is still doing the affair, so seeing that it is possible when things seem so gloomy is very reassuring.
Good luck - keep us posted!
M-33 W-33 S-11, S-8 M-11, T-14 BD - 12/26, Divorce Filing and admits to affair (her) 4/18 I moved out 5/23