In need of opinions

[dawgy]

W has been exhibiting depressed behavior . One day shes pleasant and planting flowers and being a mother and somewhat of a wife the a couple days later shes withdrawn , lazy locks herself in her room and doesnt interact with us at all . I mourn the loss of my old wife so much it makes me physically sick . Its so hard to see her so un happy and I cant help her . The only thing I can do is distance myself and get a life . This works for me , but nothing to help her . I see her slipping away from everything day by day but if I try to help she just pushes me away . I believe she blames me for everything .But in reality shes the one who made the terrible choices thats practically ruined us all . Im the only reason we are still standing at all.
I think she has genuinely tried to quit the OM but I believe he is relentless in his pursuit and he is destroying her and she doesnt even see it . Hes forcing her to choose between her children and him . Not me . Its already been made clear that she chooses him over me. However I guess she never thought much about her kids . She obviously didnt realize that her sons would be so pissed off and unforgiving even though I told her many times . Dare I say I told you so lolol . I think not .How do we get out of this mess ? I wish I could figure it out . Dawgy