Yes, it's got to be hard! Let me ask you, are you a Christian? During difficult times, I find faith to be a real asset. You know, God didn't bring you into this marriage to be unhappy. You are sewing all the right seeds! And it sounds like you are a very considerate person, and caring to your wife. She probably knows you are there, but is so wrapped up in herself and her own problems at this point that it's hard for her to focus on anything else. Don't take it personally. Develop your own interests and skills too, she isn't your whole life! I mean, you were a person before marriage, right? There's no reason you shouldn't still be one now. (An affair isn't an option!! Not that you'd ever consider one)

I didn't mean to say you should stop what you are doing to work on the marriage, just don't make it the only thing you are involved in. You will get burned out on it, and feel that it's a lost cause. (I think I detected that in some of your previous posts.) Be there for her, be as helpful as you can be, do the nice things, but keep your own pursuits also. In the end, I believe you will emerge as a good guy, not the guy who thought only of his own lack of ML during this. Didn't you pledge "in sickness and health" as part of your vows?

I know this must be tough in the first year. I commend your effort! Most people in your shoes would just call it quits. Keep going! Momx4