Hello, Boy do I feel for you. I don't want to appear like I'm taking sides, but from personal experience, I know that back problems can be very frustrating and very long lasting. I've been living with 2 bum discs in mine in the lumbar area for the better part of my adult life. I've gotten frustrated with the lack of "cure" I've been able to find, so most of the time I live with the pain.
I'm not trying to belittle your side of it, but I just wanted you to know that my back pain really dampens my desire when I'm in the grips of it. If your spouse is also battling depression and other issues....it's a recipe for a nonexistant love life! Do you think you would react differently to the lack of ML if your wife has had, say, a major operation where she shouldn't ML? What if the restriction was for one year or longer (speaking hypothetically)..would you react differently, or would you feel the same as you do now?
I guess I'm not trying to fault you for feeling rejected, just trying to give you some hope. Your spouse may feel that she simply can't handle another responsibility! (your happiness)...this isn't to say you shouldn't have it.
Can you find happiness in other tasks, events, and activities you do together? I mean, are there other activities you can enjoy together that make you feel close to one another? ie..fireplaces, beaches, dancing, movies? I know that none of these activites can replace ML, but are they things you can do to keep from losing touch with each other while you go through this tough time?
