Hey Newlywed...those little comments that you let "slip out" are being heard by her...and resented. My wife is offended by something as benign as a sigh, which I may release after she has pushed my hand away for the 90th time. But sometimes, as the song says, "a sigh is just a sigh," and I'm doing it because that is how I relax before going to sleep.
Sometimes, however, I'll let one "slip." E.g., W: "We need to come up with ways to save money." Me: "Stop buying birth control pills. With the amount you spend on one month of pills, I could buy enough condoms to last me through this decade." Okay, so, that's not a "little" slip. How about this one. I once touched my wife on her thigh and she said, "oh, don't touch me there, it makes me want to pee." (Okay, so that's a new one, I thought...I've heard, 'I itch' 'I have a bruise there' 'I'm ticklish' and the list goes on, but 'makes me want to pee' was definitely new). So, about a couple weeks later, we were at her mom's house (her mom is a nurse, by the way) and I was sitting next to her and touched her thigh and she said something like, "I have a bruise," so I withdraw my hand and said, "well, at least you don't have to pee." This causes her mom to ask what that was about, and W tells her the story. MIL says, (with a wink), "Well, maybe it wasn't that you had to pee, but that...um...maybe it was getting you excited." Silence. I say, "ummmm, small chance of that."
Okay, that's maybe not that small either, but it's a good story about how you need to worry about how well your foot can fit into your mouth.
My W hears those "slips" as "pressure" and thinks, "the harder you push, the more I'll resist."
If you haven't figured it out yet, I'm a born smart ass, so it is a big deal for me to keep my mouth shut when I think of something funny, which I thought the "slip" to her mom definitely was, although it had an edge to it.
So now, I'm thinking, that me resisting my inner smart ass is yet another thing I've given up to try to bring us closer. *Sigh* Oh crap, that definitely was one of those I'm-sighing-because-I'm-sexually-frustrated sighs.
