Peek . . . . thanks for chiming in on this thread. Its good to get "the other side's" point of view ;p
Actually, I've been working on this issue for almost the entire year of marriage now. Not pushing on her or even bringing it up very often. Just here and there I'll let a comment slip out of frustration, but those are more along the lines of (she)"ooops, I forgot to take my pill today" (me)"I doubt that'll be a problem for us". That kind of thing. We have on three occasions though sat and had good talks about "us". And from the very first discussion I've made inquiries about "what am I not doing? Do I need to listen/talk more? Do I not make you feel secure?" etc. etc. I've learned some valuable things from those talks and have implemented change the best I could. But every single time I ask the question "what else can I do to make you feel loved" the answer is always "nothing. you already do too much". That answer doesn't leave me much room to speculate. The fact of the matter is, I DO think I do too much. If I could possibly do one thing better I would talk more, but Im quiet by nature.
I still stand by the other stuff I wrote, but I think that Superdave is right . . . . Im just going to have to wait out the medical issues and see if that fixes the libido as well. If not, then i've eliminated one source of the problem. In the meantime, I've got to work on myself and do some thought stopping practice . . . particularly when Im thinking about how this marriage might eventually end.
