I guess I am a little confused on the difference between the 180's and the detachment. One thing my W always kind of complained about was things being somewhat stale between us, I think if I detach from her she will look at it like I am doing what I have always done; and a 180 would be being more aware and concerned about what she is doing.
Can you be more aware and concerned with NO EXPECTATIONS? Detachment is having no care of the outcome of your actions.
A 180 might be showing that you are concerned and caring, it also might be drinking light beer instead of vodka.
You want to stop pursuing, unfortunately sometimes just the sound of our voice can sometimes be perceived as pursuit.
Have you read all the homework threads? Pursuit and distance, detachment especially.
