OM is still too big a presence in our lives. While she speaks of him more dispassionately than she used to, I have caught her going to his FB page....every day. Last week she admitted to me that she was depressed because it was his birthday!!! SMH. My requests, suggestions and demands that she remove him from FB and out of her phone have fallen on deaf ears. She insists, like a petulant teenager, that she needs to process thing her way and that I can't try to control how she processes things. I don't usually care what she does, except that she continues to stir her emotions, and refuses to listen.
. . . It' just kind of a limbo state right now . . .
No, you cannot control her -- only what you will abide. As long as she continues her pining for him, and her petulance, I'm afraid you're going to continue to stare down the barrel at LIMBO. When you're no longer willing to put up with her antics, you will know it and so will she; it doesn't sound like you're there yet.
