Hey, when I told you to tell your W that you were unhappy, I in no way meant for you to deliver an ultimatum. There is a difference between that and a boundary. You can certainly tell your wife how you feel and that you would like to work with her on finding a solution, yet still be considerate of her back problems and not making her feel that you are going to up and leave her.
I think part of your frustration comes from not knowing exactly what it is she thinks she is doing to improve your situation... so it seems to you like all you are getting is empty promises. I think everyone on this board would agree that as long as the spouse is showing some kind of EFFORT, we can all find the hope and the strength to continue to work toward the solution. I don't hear from you that you are getting that.
