Ripken - WW filed for divorce and I'm moved out #4

[Ripken8]

Ok,

Can use the group's help on something. Thurs my ww brought up, after my things are all out of the house, giving her my key.

She said they boys will have a copy of both of our keys anyway, if they forget something or need something in the house. When I hesitated, she asked if I would feel comfortable giving her a key to my place - I told her I thought so, but would have to think about it.

I'm sure she really doesn't want a key to my place, her point being, why should I be the only one allotted the privacy and place of my own, when I'm the one who moved out?

I told her that for me, my hesitation wasn't about giving her the key, it felt like she was asking for it because she needed to be worried or felt I was a threat and that hurts.

Ultimately, she said it was more about having a place of her own and wanting that space.

I'm not sure what to do now. I told her I needed time to process things and wasn't saying "no", just needed to think.

The boys will have a key if I really needed something. While this could be a control thing for her, that's been one of the things that's come up for us in the past - that I've been too controlling. I could see me holding on to the key being more of the same.

I also could see me giving the key back a sign of dropping the rope and moving on.

What are your thoughts? Not sure what to do here.