Listen- if you are going to follow your emotions, or your reactions to hers, you are going to go on a hell of an unpleasant ride that will lead nowhere but pain and destruction.
You need to figure out what your goal is, then create a strategy based on behavior you can control, then execute it flawlessly REGARDLESS of how you feel moment by moment.
At this point I can't see any consistency with your posts and they seem all emotionally driven. At what point do you take this situation seriously enough to demonstrate this type of discipline?
Me:38 XW:38 T:11 years M:8 years Kids: S14, D11, D7 BD/Move out day: 6/17/14, D final Dec 15