Sometimes I wonder if the real test of my "parent-ness" (the ability to truly selflessly care for another) will be how I talk to my D about the divorce. My STBX didn't really know much about his parents' divorce (which happened when he was very young), and he always thought highly of his mom for never speaking ill of his dad. But then he also talked of how devastated he was to accidentally find out in college that his dad had actually left his mom for another woman. This wasn't the story he thought he knew.
I don't know what the right answer is. Being a parent and doing right by your kids is hard enough when both parents are on the same page in a loving relationship. But this stuff? ugh. So hard.
We just have to be true to ourselves and love our children through it the best we can.
