Coming Home

[mleigh4]

Thank you Job. I stayed home and cleaned another closet! I am not good at resting these days.

Got a text from Grammy as Monday's are Grammy days, she said she was on her way to pick up S from school, unless he wasn't at school, to please let her know. I replied right away that we were all home for the holiday. She replied "I kind of thought so. Let me figure out what day I can pick him up this week. I will let you know"

^^^and there you have it. H and I have a schedule, it is not her decision to pick up S on one of our days instead of us. Not her call at all. And no, it will not be on one of my days, my time with him is gold, and I am just so sick of her. So it needs to be on H day. So I replied exactly that. I said, "It would need to be Thursday if any day" No response. Like mother like son, so scary.


H came over, hung out for about an hour before taking son. IDK, I felt really uncomfortable, kind of wanted him to leave. Not sure why....While son was in the other room getting dressed (yes we spent the entire day in our jammies!) I asked H to please let me know next time he decides to give S haircut, just a courtesy text. He said he thought I wanted S to get haircut. I said yes, a trim, not butchered off. I said that was a decision I should have been part of, not his mom. I said, she is not his mother. He said, but S asked her to cut it and I was there. I said, yes, and I really do appreciate that you took care of it, just please include me in it. Just an FYI text at least. He rolled his eyes. So I said, as usual, you can give a rat's ass about how I feel, but I will let you and her know anyway.

Ok, not proud of my last comment, that's the old me and she popped out in response to the eyeroll. Dang it! I was doing good until then, so I STFU.

So things got light again, I made a point of some joking around. He looked online at some shelters for a dog. I suggested a friend who has some good dog connections. So when him and S were leaving, he called dog to go. I said, are you taking her? He said ya. I asked, but you are looking to get a dog? He answered ya, but in a really unsure way, then He said, why don't you just get a little dog like you wanted? I calmly grabbed her collar, and while putting it on her said because she is my dog, this is her home and we love her. I said S and I have had to adjust to enough changes, you don't need to take our dog too. H said nothing.

Well, he must be thinking, that was a fun visit! Lol. I don't know why I feel like such a villain when I speak my mind with him. Something I really need to figure out because I know disagreements are healthy, I guess it's just the way you handle it. I need lots of help with my relationship skills and am so ready to learn.

Weird for me tonight, having H here. The dynamics have changed so much since he left, he felt like an intruder to me. Must be part of that protective shell I have covered my home with, I feel on full alert when he is on home turf. It's so sad, that it has become this way. More for me to think about and work on.

Time for a new thread...