Hi Cemar, Now40, Corri . . . . . . to answer the questions, no we don't have kids and aren't really planning on having any. We decided up front to not even make a decision on that until we had been married for several years. I don't think we will ever have any to be honest. They just don't fit into our plans in life.
Cemar, to answer your question she has some bad disks in her back that give her chronic pain. Depression from the pain and some of the meds that she is on are the root of the problem really. I guess thats really to blame for why I feel so bad about being unhappy with that. Truth is, she really can't help the fact that ML is just not on her mind. The meds just wiped out the drive and the fact that sometimes it results in days of pain afterward Im sure is a downer on the lust factor. Before the problem, we were very compatible.
And Corri, I have discussed this with her a few times. She always listens and is very understanding. But all I get is "be patient, I promise it'll get better". And maybe it will. In all honesty, I can't in good concience lay down an ultimatum until the medical issue is resolved. If that comes about and the situation hasn't improved dramatically, then I think it would be time to voice my dissatisfaction more loudly.
I don't know . . . . . What would you do in this situation?
