Okay. You have no kids, right? Tell me you have no kids are you aren't even TRYING to have kids yet.
Just like me, you are going to have to gather your courage and take a good hard look at yourself. First, you must understand that you cannot give up your own happiness for someone elses. That does nothing for you or them. Your happiness DOES count, and you DESERVE to be as equally happy with your spouse as possible. However, the only one who can stick up for you is YOU. This is gathering the courage part because is does take a lot of it to face a problem head on. Sometimes it is much easier to stay miserable and complain about the misery than it is to DO something about it.
The second part of this is, you are going to have to find a way to tell your wife in a CALM and COMPASSIONATE manner that you are NOT happy in your relationship. There is nothing 'bad' about being unhappy and you have nothing to apologize for. But what is key here is making it clear to your wife that you are no longer willing to be unhappy, and you would like to WORK WITH HER in solving this issue... no matter what it is you have to do. Ask her if she is willing to do this with you. If she says no, then you have some serious decisions to make. If she says yes, then you have some serious thinking to do.
