I was going to echo Raliced's point about getting to that place with her STBX that Betsey is with her XH. I just don't see it happening. He took everything I cared about and trashed it. The stuff I'm going through now trying to sort through the mess... I just don't see getting over that at all.
MB, as Betsey reminds us, she's got a lot of years being D and Mr. Perfect being able to become just that. Give it time.
Raliced, I've been interested in yours and Mozza's exchanges about what's best for the kids. And I will always believe it's two loving parents raising them together. Always. But I also see other D couples still hauling each other into court 15 years later, stalking each other, purposely alienating the children from the other parent. My D17 has a friend whose mother walked away when he was a baby and he hasn't seen her since. Dad has a rotating stable of girlfriends, and his "main" girlfriend now has a 5-month old that's not his. Point is, D wasn't yours or mine first choice, but gosh, we're doing the best we can, and our kids truly will be just fine.
