Hey Bob, thanks for checking in on me. I'm just trying to hang tough. I'm having a good time on the backside of my vacation.
Hey Defacto, you're welcome, I think about your sitch so much.
Regarding the post after this one, your last about the convo, she really caught you off guard. Also, you raise a great point wondering why she's bringing all this up again. I wouldn't waste much time/energy on trying to figure it out, but I understand why you would ask.
I feel you did a good job by validating her feelings. Having mentioned that, I can understand wanting to take the call, but may I make one suggestion? First of all, hindsight is always 20/20, I know that. But since you asked, I think you should not have answered her call. Again, it sounds like you did a good job, but you were really caught off-guard.
If this happens again, you may want to consider not answeing and, shortly thereafter, sending her a text indicating you are busy. Ask her in the text what she needed. Maybe you can get a clue about want she's going to vent about and you can be more mentally preprared.
I have gone thru this, too. I've learned the hard way that most times it's best not to answer. Make any sense? Vets and others, what do you think?
Defacto really needs us now.
Chin up!
Bob
Me:55 yrs/W:51 yrs (has MS) M:14 yrs T:15 yrs No children together--3 each from previous marriages Wife Moved Out: 10/19/14 Wife Filed for Divorce: 10/20/14 Divorce Final: 10/21/15
