How do I found out about it when snooping is not allowed under DR? Thanks.
You need to know that DB does not forbid snooping outright. Just isn't encouraged because it brings people down emotionally and takes days to recover from the discovery. Excessive snooping keeps a person stuck in the mud instead of focusing on YOU and moving forward.
Just bide your time and things will come into focus. Perhaps the OW will be revealed in due course. If I were you, I'd proceed with the assumption that your H already has OW somewhere.
That should not change your DBing approach at all. Just follow Sandi's Ryules and GAL your butt off.
