LT, Reconnection takes a lot of time and patience. Yep, that old word patience will be spoken many times during the reconnection process. Keep in mind that both of you have changed and until she feels comfortable enough to want to try again, she's going to be a bit skittish. So, like a skittish kitten, drop the kibbles and allow her to come to you and do not make any moves to rush the process.
Patience and more patience are required now. I've ordered up a couple of patience shovels for you.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
