You don't sound mean at all. You and your son are living your life and continuing to move forward. Your h chose to move out and not be a part of a family. As for the dog, I don't blame you and it's not like the dog is a child that needs to go back and forth. He can get a pup and raise it at his place if he needs to relive that part of his childhood.
Now, about his mother, I would be furious that she didn't discuss the haircut w/you. She is acting like your child is her child. I think you are going to need to set some boundaries because granny is trying to be a mother to your child and your h isn't speaking up about it. Sorry, but that's what I'm getting from your postings. Granny needs boundaries.
You sound like you've been extremely busy and it's catching up w/you. I hope you'll take a little bit of time out today and just relax.
You are doing great! Slow down just a bit, breathe and relax a bit. GALing can wear you out if you aren't careful w/it and take do it in small pieces.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
